Sexual aversion

I think you'll find most people here most certainly find all aspects of sexuality to be repulsive - myself included.

Ditto. I'm in the sex-averse category as well.

Yes, I don't get it either why disliking sex is considered odd or something that needs fixing. It's strange that one is allowed to like or not like other things without being labeled as someone needing help such as hobbies, music, and other interest. Sexuality seems like a belief system that can't be questioned according to some people.

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SCH0206 wrote:Ditto. I'm in the sex-averse category as well.

Yes, I don't get it either why disliking sex is considered odd or something that needs fixing. It's strange that one is allowed to like or not like other things without being labeled as someone needing help such as hobbies, music, and other interest. Sexuality seems like a belief system that can't be questioned according to some people.

Yeah, I don't get it either. I consider sex to be the "golden calf" that must always be worshipped by people. Even by people who should know to not worship it. They want to worship it, and they must always have it. I guess that's why they call it "being thirsty". There's a new phrase I heard in some song before called T.H.O.T., and when I looked it up it said "Thirsty H** over there". It is crazy. Thirsty? Thirsty for sex? I'm only thirsty for water.

That whole thing in a nutshell is basically enough to tell me how denigrating sex is in my opinion. Yeah, to basically be thirsty. Also, to be called a Whore. Yeah, I don't get it. Why girls like to be called that. The world seems so screwy, and I'm the weird one in it.

x Nacht Klaue x wrote:Wether someone finds sex repulsive or not repulsive, it doesn't change the fact that it's actually IS disgusting. But when people get turned on, that feeling of disgust disappears.

Just to make it clear, not all people who follow christ believe that about sex. Everyone however knows that sex outside of marriage is sinful.

As children grows up, they are been taught that disliking sex is immature and that sex is natural, etc. So everyone are brainwashed to think not wanting to have sex is to be immature. So teenagers nowdays feel a pressure to have sex and then let their friends know that they are not virgin anymore. How sad isn't that. Many newspapers on the web brainwash people too "How to satisfy your wife" etc.. It's disturbing.

So many people have died because of sex. There are cases were children has died while their parents were busy having sex. From the news dailymail: "He also revealed that Clark’s three daughters had been playing in the living room before she rounded them up and took them to the bathroom so she could have sex with him."

From the news thesun: "A TODDLER tragically drowned in a bath after she was allegedly abandoned by her mum who was having “booty call” sex in the next room."

Another case from the news thesun: "Cooper Harris was found dead in the back of his dad Justin Ross Harris’s SUV after spending eight hours in oven-like 120 degree (49C) temperatures after his father allegedly abandoned him to have sex with teenage prostitutes."

He left his son in the boiling hot car to fulfil his sex fantasies.

These parents intentionally leave their children in a danger place so they can have sex..

Yeah, I remember that whole story with the Justin Ross Harris case. It's still in court, and I don't know what is going to happen. But yeah, I find that lots of people have all this whole deal with being "consumed by sex". It is even wholesale crazy. I can see how people lose their spiritual sense inside when chasing after sex. So, I just tend to have the belief that sex is against spiritual things. Sex has that stronghold on that. I don't think most Christians have that idea, but that's what I think. The Shakers had that idea as well, and I just think that should be ideal. However, because the world is wanting to fight against "abstinence" or being called "sexually repressed" into "sexual liberation & compulsory sexuality", nobody will say it like that. They'll be shamed like that.

And that point definitely gets brought up with being sexualized in school. I remember a couple years ago that I said that I was a virgin, and that people were stunned or shocked. I remember that people were like, "I can't believe you're a virgin. That's crazy. I commend you making it this far". I was 24 years old at the time. And people were just like "Wow!" It's insane. That's what most people are being brought up on. Nobody thinks that you can't be a virgin past high school. And I remember that people were saying that to me. I found it quite weird and nuts. I remember a quote one time in a twitter post that said this: "We live in a world where losing your cell phone is more of a tragedy than losing your virginity". I'd tend to agree. This is our world.

Matter of fact, I'll one up it: People consider it being the world's worst loser to still be a virgin past 16.  Wonder what could go wrong with that! Waaa! Waaa! How crazy is that!

But then again, our world is only getting more and more depraved with more sex each and every day. I can't even watch TV anymore because of it.

I just wonder about this, though: Does anyone else get like sick when they start thinking about sex? Like does anyone else get sick in terms of nervous stomach turns or just anxiety rushes when it comes to sex? I tend to feel sick to my stomach at times when I think about it, and I even feel like fainting about it. I will start to get sick thinking about it. That's my sexual aversion. It is shuddering. Is that weird?

I'd much rather deal with working out and staying fit than having sex. It's a lot less stressful to me. Easier.

I don't feel sick from it even though I find it gross.

Yeah, I get so sick sometimes. And other times I find myself awkwardly shaking in tremors. It is very violent shaking, and I find myself petrified by it all. It isn't sometimes being sick. It's the anxiety so high sometimes, and I just feel mortified by the thought of it happening to me. Dreadful to think about that happening.

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x Nacht Klaue x wrote:I also had such shakings and I found out that it happens to some people during sex / orgasms.. Thought it can be good for people to know that if they ever think about anything sexual and then start shaking alot.. I thought it was anxiety but when I googled and read I saw people from different websites describe same thing and it happened to them during sex / sexual feelings..

Wether it be anxiety or sexual feelings, no matter which of it, try to stay calm when it happens. Whenever you feel horrible feelings you can always come to this forum or any sincere chat on the internet and talk about it. That helped me a little at least when I had a difficult time..

Edit: I didn't tell other people except the members on this forum about the problems I had because most sexual people will not understand this.. But I went to chat rooms when I had like panic feelings / anxiety.. and it helped a little.

Thank you so much for that. I just such immense anxiety with that. I just like it when it's an innocence factor. I keep relationships platonic and everything. I don't really have any space where I can talk with people about this either. I just feel so alone on that. Finding this is amazing. I don't know about the whole sex thing with the shaking. I just get so nervous that I can't stop shaking. I can't help but tremor. That's what I end up going through. I just feel so sick and nervous from it all, that I end up losing my lunch from it. Yeah, I get so scared, violently scared.

Quick question: does anyone else find it particularly weird whenever a girl wears something particularly too revealing? Like I ran across these girls one day who were wearing these really tight leggings or whatever, and these girls were just walking around in the park apparently. The leggings were basically s hhowing off her butt. It was so tight looking. I don't know why, but I just don't like seeing that, and it's very uncomfortable for me.

It's just like it was in high school when girls would wear low cut tops that would show off like their boobs or whatever. It always made me uncomfortable to me. It just made a situation really awkward, like unwanted and imcommodious. I mean, like what do you do with that? Her breasts are just out there for everyone to see, and it's just like very uneasing in my opinion to see that. Like pornifying, objectifying, and denigrating in my opinion. It's just really weird. 

I get the same reaction to when guys talk about women and basically brag about sexual conquests or just girls they think are hot. It's just really irascible. I don't know anyone else who think this way. I just find it very weird to navigate all that. I just wish people would just dress modestly, like nice dresses and good clothes. I don't know. Way too much sexualization to me. Does anyone else understand what I'm saying? Am I the only one who thinks this way?

The girls did that in your high school? I assume that it had lax dress codes.

Yes, I don't like when girls dress promiscuously, either. That's a sign of insecurity because to them, even the wrong kind of attention is better than no attention. How sad.

Back when I was in high school, there were dress codes, and those outfits weren't allowed at school. I don't understand either. We can't always tell if someone is dressing for themselves, or dressing to impress others, but it'd be best to politely look away, and not give it much thought so it doesn't affect you.

Yeah, provocative and suggestive language or dress just gets really freaky for me. Anything like that or related to seduction stuff like all that PUA stuff just is crazy. Anything related to all that freaks me out. It's all too sexual and all too disgusting to me. I don't really like it. However, the world is emulsified in it, and it's hard to just deal with how sexual it is. If only we didn't have sex organs or whatever. Maybe it would be a more wholesome and innocent world. I guess that is just me. 

The world being so sexual and I'm just not comfortable with it.